Musings and Reviews of Metaphysical, New Age and Meaningful Writings

Quantum Jumps: An Extraordinary Science of Happiness and Prosperity by Cynthia Sue Larson is reviewed here by guest blogger Marya Mann, PhD, an author, Quantum Creativity Therapist and co-founder of the Loom of Love, a Center for Conscious Arts located in West Hawaii, on the Big Island:

Quantum JumpsThe Great Work of Cynthia Sue Larson

If you really want to know how quantum physics has changed humanity, read this book. Elegantly jumping between the fields of transpersonal psychology, mind-body medicine, energy healing and comparative spirituality, Cynthia Sue Larson is thoroughly grounded in her extraordinary quantum skills.

Passionately penned, clearly organized and intellectually sound, Larson’s purpose is to prepare us for the reverberations of a world in quantum transition. She has written three other books on related subjects, including Reality Shifts: When Consciousness Changes the Physical World, but this book holds the doors of the new sciences, philosophy and self-realization wide open for all.

The culmination of decades of research, study and practice, this manual for the journey can lead you to a higher order of quantum experience and a happier, more fulfilling life.

Quantum Jumps – sub-atomic transitions or abrupt changes of an electron from one quantum state to another – are happening all the time. They affect our personal lives, religion, psychology, medicine, technology, government and business. Our awareness of them and mindful invocation of the quantum state gives us access to more adaptable, resilient and useful aspects ourselves.

Now, at the dawning of the Quantum Age, Larson writes, “As in all previous transition points from Stone Age to Bronze Age, to Iron Age, to Agricultural Age, to Industrial Age to Information Age, the transition to Quantum Age will require us to adjust not only to using the newest tools of this new age, but also to incorporate the requisite thought patterns required to adapt to these new tools.”

Thought patterns are significant in Larson’s quantum world because what happens in the quantum realm does not stay in the quantum realm. Those of us who have experienced precognition, premonitions, intuitive hunches, synchronicity and déjà vu already know this. Few of us, however, have had a handbook like Quantum Jumps.

Larson offers here the foundations of more than 100 years of quantum research, clearly establishing the scientific underpinnings of what we used to think of as new age and woo-woo. Articulating the mysteries of the quantum world with a scientist’s irrefutable logic, she offers frameworks and data from prestigious universities and labs that explain how quanta behave.

Interspersed throughout are short, lively exercises for trying out your quantum wings, while an extensive Q & A section at the end of the book supports the reader in the effective use of Quantum Jumps right away.

The book’s main theme – that the way our universe really works is more fascinating, fertile and interconnected than humanity has believed – colors every one of its 289 pages. It’s not only the microscopic building blocks of matter in the laboratory that exhibit such quantum phenomena as superimposed states, multiple existences, or entangled, non-local states enjoying instantaneous communication with one another across vast distances. People, animals and plants do too. Two-thirds of physicists surveyed now believe that everything in material form — including us — exists in a superimposed state of many possible realities.

“The mind-boggling implication of this simple statement is that there are many possible you’s… and many possible me’s,” Larson declares.

In her third chapter, “Why Do We Quantum Jump?” Larson presents a range of motivations for the typical person to actively make a Quantum Jump: to survive a crisis, to find their calling, lose weight or find a mate. While there is clear evidence that people do often feel better, find their vocation, trim down and find a partner, the explanations for how Quantum Jumps work are less obvious.

Numerous physics theories that explain what’s going on are known as ‘interpretations’ and Larson does an impeccable job describing how they account for “quantum weirdness” and the many realities that make up what we call “consciousness.”

David Bohm’s Holographic Interpretation, Leonard Susskind and Raphael Bousso’s Holographic Multiverse Interpretation, and Niels Bohr’s Copenhagen Interpretation, among others, are explored; Larson then gives us meaningful real-world anecdotes to match their predictions.

Especially vivid is John Cramer’s Transactional Interpretation, which suggests “handshakes” take place between quantum particles in different points of time and space. “In Cramer’s interpretation, a particle here and now on Earth instantaneously communicates with particles light-years away in time and space,” reports Larson, “as one particle sends an ‘offer’ wave and another responds with a ‘confirmation’ wave.”

Most intriguing is Hugh Everett III’s Many Worlds Interpretation (MWI) of quantum physics, which postulates a multiverse where a person may be living the life he only dreams about in this universe. He can travel to alternate realities and bring back experience and data across the multiverse into this timespace reality from his future or parallel self. Traits one has developed in a parallel universe can seed those same qualities and behaviors in this reality.

The holographic multiverse offers us mind-blowing freeways into the majesty of the heavens and is limited only by our imaginations. We can, not figuratively, but literally jump from one parallel universe to another.

The multiverse explanation for quantum mechanics got a big boost back in 1987 when Nobel Prize-winning physicist Steven Weinberg calculated that the cosmological constant of our universe — the energy density in otherwise empty space — is so statistically unlikely that it must be something of an aberration.

“The fact that we appear to live in such an improbable universe is leading ever-increasing numbers of physicists to embrace the multiverse. Growing evidence, such as a dearth of other new particles found in addition to the newly found Higgs boson, suggests that our universe is measured to be just as we would expect it according to the multiverse Many Worlds Interpretation,” confirms Larson.

Her enthusiasm and story-telling skill breathe life into sometimes dry history and theory, as when she wonders what happens to the missing socks from your washer? We may joke that the socks have entered a parallel universe, she says, but actually, your socks may really have disappeared into a parallel universe! For example, in 2012, theoretical physicists from the University of l’Aquila, Italy, found a mysterious anomaly; the loss rate of neutrons appeared to depend on the strength and direction of a magnetic field. Physicist Zurab Berezhiani proposed that perhaps the missing neutrons were visiting parallel universes!

Leading us through the new frontier filled with entangled diamonds, teleporting rubidium atoms and quantum biology, Larson points to ever-increasing evidence of quantum behavior on the macroscopic (larger-than-quantum-particle) scale.

We see plants with the ability to photosynthesize based on quantum superposition and birds that appear to navigate using quantum entanglement. Our very human sense of smell appears to depend on quantum tunneling, she says, “with electrons in the receptors of our noses disappearing on one side of an olfactory (smell) molecule, and reappearing on the other.”

In “Changing Past, Present & Future,” Larson reveals how vast the universe really is – and how expansive our concepts about it will have to be in order to keep up.

Her section titled “Seeking Evidence of Parallel Universes & Many Big Bangs,” includes the story of physicists Stephen Hawking and Thomas Hertog who called for “the search for signs of multiple multiverse cosmic background radiation ‘Big Bangs,’ utilizing the concept of ‘Top-Down Cosmology,’ and the notion that our universe had more than one beginning and history. Thomas Hertog succinctly summarizes this big idea as, ‘quantum physics forbids a single history’.”

In astonishing sections on the universe according to the Transactional Interpretation, Larson presents studies that have consistently shown a seeming reversal between cause and effect. Bicausality – more than one possible beginning of events – and retrocausality, in which the direction of cause is reversed from past-to-present to present-to-past, are some of the principles that explain such phenomena as alternate histories, alternate recollections or “false memories,” and parallel worlds.

In the Quantum Age, alternate histories are to be expected. “They provide evidence of the superposition of states that we and everything around us exists within, so we can expect to occasionally see documented records from the past that differ from what we recall.”

State-of-the-art laboratories now have computers that operate on qubits rather than bits and have millions of times the analytical power of conventional processors. Quantum Jumps affect our society at every level; it is happening very fast, in every field and having massive consequences.

Consider the human “superpotential,” self-improvement and energy healing movements. In “Get a Quantum Jump Start” and “Quantum Jumps in Daily Life,” thought-provoking anecdotes include reports of remissions of cancer, events that have no apparent cause, and “reality shifts” that happen in an instant. “Their feelings changed their situations so much that would-be muggers and rapists walked away from potential victims, and a car plummeting off the side of the road landed safely in a lake…that had never been there before.” When people face dangerous or challenging situations, writes Larson, they can avoid harm and cultivate a positive state by “realizing in the midst of their ordeal that they can find and project a higher state of awareness on the situation.”

As you read Quantum Jumps, your mind will expand and your heart will be touched by the power of the quanta. You’ll probably agree with Larson that it’s important to plan how we will use its power and “what we are and aren’t willing to give of ourselves in order to reap its benefits.” She predicts we will, again, likely find ourselves immersed in the new quantum technology before we’ve properly considered how best to answer these questions, “let alone what implications there are to how we choose to respond.”

Woven with powerful personal stories and dozens of resonant laboratory and case studies, Quantum Jumps, Larson’s “great work,” serves us well as source material for answering those essential quantum questions.

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Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries, Chakra Secrets and Balance Your Chakras, Balance Your Life


I’m so inspired by this review of The Law of Success by Tom Rapsas, that I’d like to share it here for all those looking for a motivational read. Tom Rapsas, is the author of Life Tweets, and Spirituality blogger (Wake Up Call) and .

9 Life Tips from a Tiny Book that’s Spiritual Dynamite.

He is the wisest who seeks God. He is the most successful who has found God. ~Yogananda, The Law of Success

It measures a little over 5 inches by 3 ½ inches and is only 39 pages long. You can comfortably read it in about an hour. Yet it’s jam-packed with wisdom and a true Wake Up Call for anyone who has wondered off the spiritual path. It’s The Law of Success, Using the Power of Spirit to Create Health, Prosperity and Happiness by Paramahansa Yogananda.

Perhaps best know for introducing millions of westerners to meditation through his Autobiography of a Yogi, Yogananda penned many books during his lifetime. But for me, The Law of Success is his masterwork because it so concisely sums up what living an active, engaged spiritual life is all about.

Yogandada uses what might best be called the KISS approach (Keep It Simple Silly). And for me his book serves as a guide book to daily living. I pick it up whenever I feel off-kilter and feel the need to get my life back on track. It makes me realize that success is not measured by material wealth, while reminding me of the vital role God plays in the process.

What follows are passages that mean the most to me, strung together as a loose narrative. If you find these compelling, I’d suggest you pick the book up as this only skims the surface. It will be a few dollars well spent.

9 Life Tips from The Law of Success.

  • Success is not rightly measured by the worldly standards of wealth, prestige and power…success is measured by the yardstick of happiness.
  • Your work can be called a “success” only when in some way it serves your fellowman.
  • Develop the powers that God gave you—unlimited powers that flow from the innermost forces of your being.
  • Before deciding any important matter, sit in silence, asking the Father for His blessing. Then behind your power is God’s power; behind your will, His will.
  • When the consciousness is kept on God, you will have no fears; every obstacle will then be overcome by courage and faith.
  • When you do your part and rely on God to do His, you will find that mysterious forces come to your aid and that your constructive wishes soon materialize.
  • Along with positive thinking, you should use will power and continuous activity in order to be successful.
  • Always be sure, within the calm region of your inner Self, that what you want is right for you to have, and in accord with God’s purposes.
  • In order to be happy one should have good health, a well-balanced mind, a prosperous life, the right work, a thankful heart, and, above all, wisdom or knowledge of God.

The Chakra Diaries Book CoverI’m taking a long weekend break from writing my next book, The Chakra Diet, to celebrate my birthday. I hope you’ll accept a gift from me – my first book, The Chakra Diaries, will be free on Kindle to download March 7-9.

Here’s what one of my reviewers in the U.K. wrote:

“The first thing that grabbed me was the cover: all those swirls turning in one direction in harmony, it’s not something I’ve seen before. Only later did I realize there’s a hidden meaning in this cover, showing that, interwoven in the story are the lives of different characters as they attend a 12 week chakra workshop and experience a major shift in their lives. During this workshop, as characters come and leave, the reader’s taught how the energy of healing and different people can leave a mark on one. To be honest, when I started this book I expected a formal handbook with explanations what chakras are, how they work, and how blockages can be removed. However, I was wrong. The Chakra Diaries offers a unique way to teach the reader how energy impacts one’s life by giving peeks into the diary entries of the main characters and their lives, their experiences, disappointments and happy moments.

“This is definitely different than any other book I’ve read. It isn’t just a story; the book offers a glimpse of the different stages people go through to attain the ultimate. There is Drama. Loss. Guilt. Redemption. Love. Strength. And in the end there’s happiness and forgiveness. All in all, this is a well written, entertaining, and thought provoking read I enjoyed.”

I hope you enjoy the inspiring quotes, stories, and interwoven chakra information and balancing meditations when you download your copy of The Chakra Diaries. If so, please leave your own review on Amazon.

If you’d like a preview of The Chakra Diet and would like to enter to win a free, personalized Chakra Diet Plan, please see

Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries, Chakra Secrets and Balance Your Chakras, Balance Your Life

PrintIn Universe 101, Monica Ortiz helps us answer the questions: Why are we here? How can we be better people? How can we relieve ourselves of any spiritual baggage carried forward from the past – whether a past life or our childhood? How can we truly love ourselves, those we are in relationship with, and the world in general? If you’re ready to be truly honest with yourself, take a look at any past errors you have made, give up judgments of others, and evolve into the best you can be, please pick up Universe 101: Learn, Grow, Evolve.

Monica Ortiz says that we come into this life with our Core imprinted with who we are supposed to be in this life and what we are supposed to achieve. However, life circumstances can pull us away from our true path and happiness. If you feel this may have happened to you, Ortiz offers a way to reconnect to “The Core of Your Being.” She offers concrete advice, as if she were your personal life coach, advising that you answer these questions with complete honesty: Who am I? and Who do I want to be? Then, you must find and dig out the roots of any damage that has kept you from your destiny. She believes that with honesty, love, good communication, and deep understanding of yourself and the others involved, you can move forward in your path of evolution. Ortiz explains how you will find inner peace and better health once you get through your Spiritual Baggage and reconnect your mind, body and spirit.

I like Ortiz’ strict guidelines on learning to love yourself, first of all by not doing things that make you dislike yourself. She gives great advice on how to be a righteous person who keeps to your word and shares the goodness inside of you with the world as part of your universal responsibility. She asks tough questions and delivers thoughtful advice and specific steps you can take to develop into a better person and progress on your spiritual path. She shares secrets learned from her Grandfather, and his spirit after he passes, as well as lessons she learned growing up in a difficult family and surviving several difficult relationships.

Whatever form of spiritual or religious beliefs you may have, this book will touch you with its wisdom. Whether it’s how to forgive, or how to pray honestly from your heart, Ortiz’ advice will help you lead a happier, healthier life. The interesting stories woven into each chapter make the life lessons easy to relate to.


Monica Ortiz is a writer, life coach, lecturer, a self-described “seer” and spiritual guide who has assisted hundreds of people with their healing path. Here, she answers my questions:

Becca: How would you describe your “spiritual gifts” and how do you use them in your work?

Monica: I have a gift of future vision, I have a gift of past vision (being able to see into someone’s past) and present vision. I can look into someone’s past to identify significant events that have affected them in a negative way, keeping them from their happiness. While I am assisting someone in working out their current issues, my gift of sight also allows me to take a glimpse into their future and guide them along the best path for them while taking into account the adjustments they are currently making in their life. If I see a course for them that is unhealthy, I am able to make them aware of it and this allows them to make healthy choices and achieve success in their life.

Becca: How do you help people get “unstuck?” What initial advice would you give the reader who felt this way?

Monica: There is a myriad of reasons why someone becomes stuck in their life… parental pressure, societal pressure, peer pressure, one’s own expectations of oneself, a build up of many mistakes that leaves you in a painful place of not knowing how to unravel it. I help people get unstuck by targeting the issue in a clear way and then slowly peeling back all of the layers, exposing the root of the issue and then assisting them in rebuilding something that they need in their life. The first question I recommend people ask themselves is “Why am I feeling stuck?” because it starts there.

Becca: What is the underlying message of your book?

Monica: There is hope for a better life. A life filled with happiness, success (finding the perfect job, finding true love, having a good relationship with parents, etc.), good health, inner peace, and fulfillment are all achievable.

Becca: What inspired you to write the book?

Monica: The Universe, as it was my calling and it knows there are so many people out there who need help. Also, my friends and prior clients who have benefited from what I teach and who are now living their dream lives.

Becca: What do you hope readers will take away from your book?

Monica: I hope people will understand the book and understand that the journey to a better life can start any time they choose. On page vii, I wrote “When you read this book and then sit and ponder all that is in it, if you learn even one thing, grow, evolve, and find peace in one aspect of your life then this book will have served you.” I still want that for everyone. In the beginning, I hoped that the book would help people. Now that I am getting such positive feedback from people who have read the book and have attended my lectures, it has changed to a hope of reaching more people so they can get the help they need.

Becca: Where do you find your inspiration to write?

Monica: From the Universe. I am very purposeful in my writing and feel I need to be that way because people are relying on me to really help them. I truly want this for everyone. I wholeheartedly believe Peace within oneself is absolutely amazing and can lead us to Peace throughout the Universe.

Becca: Any advice for others who feel they have inspiration to share?

Monica: We all have stories of love, and pain, of despair and hope, of loyalty and mistrust, of resentment and forgiveness.  I say “share” and remember to be mindful of your motivation for sharing and your intent of what you want to achieve by your sharing.  Be mindful of what you are putting out into the Universe and how it will affect others.

Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries, Chakra Secrets and Balance Your Chakras, Balance Your Life

jointsHealthy Joints for Life: An Orthopedic Surgeon’s Proven Plan to Reduce Pain and Inflammation, Avoid Surgery and Get Moving Again is a well-researched and documented plan from Richard Diana, M.D., who retired from the Miami Dolphins after Super Bowl XVII to attend Yale School of Medicine, going on to become a surgeon and orthopedic consultant to the Boston Red Sox. It’s inspirational to have a physician recommend holistic alternatives to avoid surgery and other diseases caused by our Standard American Diet (SAD) and sedentary lifestyles.

Dr. Richard Diana has compiled a thorough guide to change your lifestyle and lessen the inflammation that causes joint pain and many other health problems.

I totally agree with his diet recommendations, as the processed foods he takes off the “to eat” list are detrimental to everyone’s health. More and more, data supports his recommendations of a diet of grass-fed beef (and I would include organic or free-range chicken and turkey too), wild-caught salmon, a rainbow of vegetables and low-glycemic index fruit, and complex carbs in the form of starchy vegetables, whole grains and beans. He offers options for vegetarians, vegans (excluding dairy), and those who don’t like fish.

I don’t think anyone can really argue with or not benefit from his suggestions to minimize sugar and simple carbs, maximize fiber, eat more fruit and vegetables, eat the “right” proteins, avoid unhealthy fats, maximize healthy omega-3 fats, eat smaller portions more frequently throughout the day to prevent uncontrolled hunger, and forgive dietary lapses when they happen and get back on the horse or plan.

The supplement list is a little daunting; the readers have to decide for themselves how far they want to go with Dr. Diana’s suggestions in this regard, based on their level of pain and the degree of inflammation they are experiencing.

I read this book for my own interest in health, as well as to look for suggestions for my mother who has arthritic joints. Like many of the patients Dr. Diana has encountered, I find her lacking in motivation to change. “Why not just pop another extra-strength pain reliever?” she asks. As a proponent of natural alternatives, I have motivated my mother with some of his suggestions, like being able to travel to visit your grandchildren and play with them, looking your best, and being able to sit in the theater or church without crippling stiffness when getting up. His exercise regimen is a bit rigorous for her, but she has been able to follow some of his suggestions with increased flexibility now, and I have enjoyed incorporating his recommendations into my regular fitness routine to stave off joint paint.

What motivates you to exercise or change your diet? I’m very interested in this as I finish writing The Chakra Diet. Dr. Diana recommends digging deep and finding the key that will motivate YOU, whether it is:

  • Being able to play with your kids/grandkids.
  • Being active with your friends, spouse and loved ones.
  • Wanting to look your best.
  • Rewarding yourself – perhaps with a shopping spree or day at the spa.
  • Being able to play a sport that you love, such as tennis, golf or running.
  • Being able to engage in daily activities free of pain.

I’m interested in hearing WHAT MOTIVATES YOU TO CHANGE. Please share in the comment section below.

The science in the book is compelling, but if you find it a little too complex or dry, you can skip past the technical info and toward Dr. Diana’s interesting stories, case studies and scientifically sound plan, and give it a fair try.

Through this book, Dr. Diana hopes to be able to extend his unique expertise on the non-conventional treatment of joint pain to a large population, one that he would otherwise not be able to reach.


Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries, Chakra Secrets and Balance Your Chakras, Balance Your Life

perf6.000x9.000.inddHow To Get Married After Forty is an excellent guidebook to help you find the right relationship or improve an existing one, no matter what your age. It takes you through the steps to rediscover who you really are and how to be your “true self” to achieve “true love.”

Why is this book geared toward people over 40? The authors, in their therapy sessions, have learned that while people of all ages need and want a loving partner, those over 40 are looking more for partners who are kind, caring, thoughtful, and capable of intimacy, rather than those just driven by their hormones. They want someone genuine, someone real. And since we get what we project, the authors take us by the hand on an interesting discovery into who we really are and what is behind our feelings and actions.

I learned a lot from the information on how our dysfunctional families (the authors state 80% of childhoods can be classified this way) can leave us with toxic beliefs and ways of relating that sabotage our efforts to have a good relationship.

Luckily, it’s never too late to marry, remarry or revitalize an existing relationship, and the authors provide the tools: Seven steps to finding and happily keeping a life partner, Ten hidden beliefs that destroy intimacy, plus worksheets, exercises, meditations and visualizations on how to express feelings, how to communicate, and how to forgive. With this help, we can achieve a relationship that will honor what’s in our best interest and serve as a vehicle for our transformation and growth into our best selves.

The stories included from the authors’ years of counseling couples and individuals make the book very relatable to any reader, while their well-referenced guidance makes the book an invaluable tool for other counselors and life coaches to use as well.


Karen headshot-medKaren McChrystal, M.A., and Steve Ross, M.A., both writers and therapists, answer my questions here about their collaborative effort on How To Get Married After Forty.

1) What is the underlying message of your book?

Karen McChrystal: Being fully yourself is the very best way to attract and create a wonderful loving relationship. Authenticity ensures we will select for the person(s) who really fits with us. After forty, this is more important than ever. Generally speaking, before the age of forty, most people are devoting much of their time and interest to having a family and rearing children. After forty, we can devote ourselves to cultivating what we, as individuals, are really about, and who fits with us in this next stage of life. Now, as we stand forth as mature individuals in our own right, we come face-to-face with any impediments we may still have to being fully ourselves. How to Get Married After Forty offers guidance and steps for becoming fully ourselves and finding mates who celebrate this in us and also want authenticity.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERASteve Ross: The underlying message is twofold. First of all, we want to send a message of hope, especially for those over forty: no matter what you’ve been through, it’s never too late to find your partner, to marry, remarry, or qualitatively improve the relationship you’re already in. Secondly, we’re sounding a wake-up call: being happy is connected to being true to yourself. We call that “personal authenticity,” and we call our approach “radical” because it doesn’t focus on the externals of dating or where to meet people. Our approach is from the inside out, about being true to oneself first and foremost, which makes one more able to commit to and love another person. We say, focus less on finding an ideal mate than on becoming an ideal mate. That makes a person really attractive to others who appreciate and want someone open, honest, loving, and genuine. What’s the point of trying to appear like what you think someone else wants and getting close with people who can’t see, don’t know, and perhaps aren’t even interested in who you really are?

2) What inspired you to write the book?

Karen McChrystal: Both of us, as co-authors, met after the age of forty; both of us were (are) psychotherapists, deeply interested in what keeps people from leading fulfilling lives past the age of child-rearing, and in how to help others actualize themselves and to evolve into fuller dimensions of human potential.

Probably my initial inspiration was my long-standing interest in how people could learn to come forth and shine brightly as who they really are. I wanted to live in a world surrounded by people who each expressed their unique brilliance and gifts.

So when I became a psychotherapist, I focused on the subject of creativity versus madness, wrote my Master’s thesis on the creative process, and started out my psychotherapy private practice working with blocked writers and artists. I found great joy in helping these clients access their natural creativity by removing inhibitions rooted in their past. Their transformations before my very eyes was wonderful. I got the idea for How To Get Married After Forty based on the lessons from this work, about how people can live as who they truly are. And, of course, the lessons of this work could be, and were applied to my own marriage.

Steve Ross: This book was a joint effort, but we were coming from different places. I agree with what Karen said about this, but my passion about personal authenticity was very personal and pre-dated meeting her. Back around 1986, I was a counseling intern at a Community Mental Health outreach center in San Francisco, serving several neighborhoods, including the Castro. About half of my case load were gay men with AIDS and over the course of my time there I lost several of them. Later that year the AIDS Quilt came to San Francisco. It was housed in the bottom level of the huge Moscone Center Convention Hall. I can remember the literal descent from daylight into twilight as I walked down level after level to the bottom floor. It was like a journey to the underworld. The hall was almost totally silent. I could occasionally hear someone breathing or softly crying. I have no idea how many others were in the room. I felt absorbed by the silence and the sheer gravity of the situation. We walked up and down the rows of colored fabric, reading the words of love and condolence, studying the photos. I saw panels of at least three of my former clients. I was not overwhelmed, but I was full to the brim. Each time I passed someone I made brief eye contact, we nodded, eyes soft, faces unsmiling, filled with emotion. I left that silent, dimly lit and cavernous hall with a keen awareness that during that time we had checked our social graces at the door. All of us had worn our real face, were totally in the moment, real as real can be.

As I walked up those stairs, literally from darkness to light, the bright blue sky and fresh air of a city afternoon getting progressively brighter and sweeter, I felt a tremendous energy and sense of exhilaration. I clearly remember thinking, “This is how I always want to be and feel and live, in this same state of authenticity and focus, and why couldn’t that happen? What prevents us from doing that?” Once home I sat down to write “The Seven Steps to Personal Authenticity,” which I presented in lecture format to various groups. Later, after meeting and sharing a private practice with Karen, we started a pre-marital counseling service and turned our attention to how people can discover and enhance marital compatibility. When we began writing our book, my Seven Steps ended up as Chapter 4.

3) What do you hope readers will take away from your book?

Karen McChrystal: A deeper understanding of what it takes to be fully ourselves in relationship, what the deep-seated impediments may be, and how to work through these. Most mid-life relationship books give lists of nice things to do for your mate, to keep them interested, to keep sex fresh – more like grocery lists. Or they may raise the issue of hidden beliefs, but do not explain more than the obvious ones, nor do they discuss how we heal in the context of relationship – healing through feeling safe to be fully ourselves, through communicating effectively, completely and truthfully, through testing to see if our partner will re-traumatize us, through listening with accurate empathy rather than with pre-conceptions, judgments and biases, and through honoring who each of us really is.

Our book is based in solid psychoanalytic/psychotherapeutic theory and research, time-tested, and which has provided us and our clients over the years with life-changing fundamentals.

Steve Ross: We hope our readers will feel revitalized, energized, and empowered by our book. We hope it will inspire them to move forward on the path of self-discovery and personal authenticity.

How To Get Married After Forty is available on Amazon Kindle, and makes a perfect Valentine’s Day gift for yourself, your friends, and even your mate if you want your relationship to evolve ever deeper.

Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries, Chakra Secrets, and Balance Your Chakras, Balance Your Life


forgivenessCan you forgive everyone that’s ever hurt you, including yourself? With Iyanla Vanzant’s help in her new book, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything, I was able to recognize emotions I thought had been long ago dealt with, and deal with them as I traveled the forgiveness journey with her.

Spiritual life coach Iyanla Vanzant takes you headfirst, soul deep into the practice of forgiving yourself, your body, your life, your parents, your choices, your relationship with money, and more… no stone or grudge is left unearthed.

What is the benefit of following Iyanla’s forgiveness protocols in this book? Practicing forgiveness, as she demonstrates, helps you keep your energy clear and manifest what you truly want… living your life with more love for yourself and others. Through the journaling pages and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping instructions in the book, and the soothing meditations in the accompanying CD, you are given the tools to eliminate any excess mental or emotional weight that keeps you stuck in repetitive situations, circumstances and experiences that are not healthy or productive.

You can simply read this book for its wonderful insights and interesting “Forgiveness Stories” in each chapter. Or you can take it one day at a time with Iyanla and spend 21 days following her system of total forgiveness. It’s work, but it’s worth it. As she says, “Forgiveness helps to transform and eliminate the energy blockages that we hold in our minds about who we are and who others are, and the subsequent issues or upsets that grow from the thoughts, beliefs and judgments we hold.” If found the part on letting go of judgments to be very powerful, as they create needless suffering.

tapAlthough I practice Dynamind, a simplified version of EFT that I describe in my books Chakra Secrets and Balance Your Chakras, Balance Your Life, I found the tapping effective in eliminating the stress caused by energetic blockages from negative thoughts that needed to be forgiven.

Day 1 in the Forgiveness Ritual is “Forgiving Myself for Judging Myself,” the most self-loving, self-affirming practice you can do, opening the heart, mind and spirit to greater possibilities. Once you reach Day 18 and “Forgive the World,” you spend the last three days of the program writing forgiveness letters that you never send, because acknowledging your emotions and writing them is what is important. Once completed, forgiveness will be a new tool in your skill set to live your life to the fullest.

Becca Chopra, author of Balance Your Chakras, Balance Your Life, Chakra Secrets, and The Chakra Diaries

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