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Avoid the #1 Relationship Killer


Relationship experts and Huna philosophers all think blame and criticism is the #1 reason why relationships fail. Most couples split up, family members stop talking or business partnerships fail because one or both of the parties gets tired of being blamed or criticized.

What is the best and quickest way to stop it?

When you’re blaming someone, what you’re really doing is pointing the finger at them and saying “Hah! It’s your fault. You’re wrong.” Then, that person typically comes back and says, “No, it’s your fault…” and this can go on in an endless loop.

When you catch yourself starting to blame or you’re having critical thoughts about your partner or colleague, make a pleasant “Hmmm….” sound. And what this does is it shifts you out of your “critical” brain into your “wonder” brain.

So, you can say to yourself, “Hmmm… I wonder what I could learn from this.” Or “Hmmm… I wonder how I’m contributing to this situation.”

When you do this, an immediate change takes place in your connection with the person you were previously blaming or criticizing.

Try this the next time you have a critical thought, and watch real miracles open up in your relationships! And of course, work on keeping your heart chakra open to love and compassion – listen to my free Chakra Meditation at http://www.thechakras.org.
Namaste! Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries

Run Toward A Happier Life


I was recently interviewed about my novel, The Chakra Diaries, and how the characters became “emotionally centered.” Balancing the chakras can definitely lead to greater emotional strength and help you live a happier life, as it did for my characters.

In addition to meditation, such as daily Chakra Meditation, there are three steps you can take to master your own emotions, the way to run toward a happier life.

1) First, see things as they are in your life now, and accept them.  Journaling or keeping a diary, as did my characters, is a great way to see the truth in front of your eyes.  Don’t see your situation as worse than it is, just the simple truth.

2) Believe that you have the power to change things.  In fact, see your situation as better than it is.  Have a vision for what you want in your life, a compelling future to strive for, a reason to get up in the morning.  Keep your eye on the prize.  Write your goals down in your journal, visualize having what you want during your meditations.

3) Move toward your goal in baby steps, achievable steps, one small move at a time to make your life the way you want it to be.  That way, you won’t scare yourself with fear of failure.  You’ll increase your self-confidence with every small success you experience as you make your life the way you see it – happy.  Be sure to write down every successful move you make in your diary and share the good news with others.

To listen to my free Chakra Meditation, which focuses on the emotions associated with each chakra, go to http://www.thechakras.org.

Namaste!
Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries

 

Letting Go of Anger and Other Negative Emotions


Letting go of negative thoughts, feelings and beliefs can be life changing, and The Sedona Method® has been recognized worldwide as one of the simplest and fastest ways to do so. My good friend, Nicole Lawrence, recently introduced me to its methods of actually letting the feelings come up, and verbally agreeing to let them go, now. Instructing your body to release the stress and tension associated with a “feeling” works much more quickly than mentally trying to deal with your emotions – you’ll just keep rationalizing your anger or fear.

To watch a great introduction to the method, go to:

Link to see the movie online or purchase the DVD:http://www.lettinggo.tv/

I find this method works well with balancing the heart chakra, letting go of negative emotions and beliefs, and opening to love and compassion.
Namaste!
Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries
http://www.thechakras.org

MANIFESTING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP, A GREAT LIFE


With all this talk of manifesting your goals, how do you actually accomplish
conscious manifestation? There are many ways – here is advice gleaned from Gay Hendricks.

Manifestation begins to happen after you’ve become skilled at focusing positively
on your goals (stage one) and loving yourself as you proceed toward them (stage two.)

The third stage is to cultivate an ongoing experience of wonder.

As you go through your life, get in the habit of asking lots of
wonder-questions. A wonder-question is one you don’t know the answer to.
A wonder-question is something you’re genuinely curious about.

When a tough situation emerges, go toward wonder rather than
toward a fixed position. If you’ve been struggling with your weight all your
life, shift for a moment to wonder instead of struggle. Ask a wonder question:
“Hmmm, I wonder what my weight-struggle is really about?”
(Compare that to a non-wonder question: “Does Jenny Craig or Weight-
Watchers have the best program?”)

Wondering is more fun and it makes things work faster. If we’d
gotten stuck in feeling victimized by our buyer who backed out, we wouldn’t
have had much fun. We might not have gotten the house back on the
market and sold it quite so quickly, either.

You can turn any life-situation into a wonder-question. If you’re
having a relationship struggle, let go of blaming your partner or yourself.
Instead, wonder “Why would I be creating a relationship struggle right
now?”

If you’re having a money-struggle, turn it into a wonder-question:
“Hmmm, what am I needing to learn from this money-struggle?”

Under stress, we humans tend to clutch our bellies in fear and cling to
fixed positions. We look for somebody to blame. We think we know whose
fault it is and what they ought to do to fix the problem.

Let’s try something new: Under stress, go to wonder rather than fear.
Let go of positions and float free in wonder.

Namaste!
Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries
http://www.TheChakras.org

FIND YOUR VOICE – BALANCE YOUR THROAT CHAKRA


“I am able to hear and express the voice of my soul.”
As you have balanced your lower four chakras, you have come to know who you are, how to interact with others, feel confidence, and love. Now, when you balance the throat, or fifth chakra, you are able to communicate your truth. Put your glorious self out for the world to hear your creative self-expression.

The Throat Chakra is associated with communication, the ability to speak honestly, to receive and process information, to know and speak our inner truth. It is the center of transformation and change.

Signs of an unbalanced Throat Chakra are an inability to express yourself, feeling stagnated, and holding on to unexpressed emotions. This can lead to frustration, inability to find the right words or even excessive talking, shyness, sore throat, stiff neck, and addictions like smoking.

When the Throat Chakra is balanced, we feel creatively inspired and able to express ourselves well. We have confidence in our beliefs and the self-confidence to share them, and the capacity to listen to others and truly hear them as well.

YOGA POSES FOR THE THROAT CHAKRA

Add these poses to your yoga repertoire to open the throat chakra:
the Half Shoulder Stand, Shoulder Shrugs and Circles, and the Fish.

THE THROAT CHAKRA MEDITATION
The healing green light of the heart chakra moves up the spine to the throat, where it becomes a beautiful sky blue. Breathe in the blue light, then fill your lungs and let your throat open wide and sing whatever tone or note feels right… AAAH! You know what to say and what not to say, how to communicate well. Feel yourself singing out clear energy, loving notes, healing vibrations for yourself and the entire universe. Make yourself heard and listen well to the love that returns to you.

Tony, a character in The Chakra Diaries, is unable to connect with women – everything he says is taken the wrong way, until he balances his Throat Chakra. Learn more about his transformation, during our June sale of The Chakra Diaries both on Amazon.com and our direct-from-the publisher specials for international readers at http://www.TheChakras.org.

Namaste!
Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries

Heal Yourself as You Heal the Earth


Going green this Earth Day can reap benefits for both you and the environment. Breathe in the beautiful green of the Spring and balance your heart chakra. Once you are in touch with the love and compassion that is inside us all, be kind to yourself and the earth in these simple ways…

Eating organic, locally-grown food will reduce your exposure to pesticides and provide you with more nutrients in your fruits and vegetables (50 to 60% more antioxidants according to several research studies). While you’re saving your body from having to detox from toxic pesticides and unhealthy additives in your food, you’ll be eliminating the fuel spent on transporting fruits and vegetables and the waste of extra packaging. You’ll also be supporting sustainable agriculture in your area.

What you put on your body is as important as what you put in it, so opt for natural, fragrance-free personal care products. 95% of the chemicals used to make products “fragrant” are derived from scarce petroleum and are neurotoxins and endocrine disruptors. Fewer synthetic chemicals in your products equals fewer synthetic chemicals that can end up in our ecosystems.

A natural mineral sunscreen with a reflective barrier like zinc, in a non-petroleum base, is better for your skin and our ocean’s coral reefs. The CDC reported that 97% of Americans are contaminated with oxybenzone, a widely-used sunscreen chemical linked to allergies, hormone disruption, and cell damage that may actually increase the signs of aging. Even trace levels of sunscreen chemicals have been found to cause coral reef damage.

The use of chemicals to clean your home or workplace can be a source of indoor air pollution that is worse than any we experience outside. The commercial cleaners under the sink often contain concoctions of chemicals, many of which are toxic to our bodies and then to the environment once they’ve gone down the drain.

Dish and laundry cleaners are often detergents, not soaps, and are derived from petroleum, are non-biodegradable, and contain phosphates that pollute our groundwater and ocean. Safer choices are vinegar, baking soda, Borax and Bon Ami, or the latest chemical-free alternatives, like the Seventh Generation brand available at most natural food stores and supermarkets.

When doing your laundry, be aware that dryer sheets contain chloroform, camphor, ethylacetate and other hazardous ingredients. Instead, add a little baking soda to your wash water to soften and deodorize your clothes. Want a fresher-smelling bathroom, kitchen or car? Commercial air “fresheners” actually add to indoor air pollution, coating nasal passages with nerve-deadening agents and impairing our sense of smell. It makes more sense to open a window or turn on the fan or putout tropical flowers with a natural scent.

If you’re remodeling at home or work, avoid the fumes of volatile organic chemicals (VOCs) as they are toxic and flammable. Luckily, many stores now carry low-VOC paint and other remodeling materials that will cause fewer headaches, dizzy spells and respiratory problems for your family or business associates and fewer chemicals damaging the environment.

Here’s to a happy and healthy Earth Day!

HOW TO KEEP PASSION ALIVE


Dear Becca,
Like Deborah in your book, The Chakra Diaries, I feel dried up, my partner looks at every woman but me, what can I do?
In a Funk

Dear Friend,
You can go from funky to femme fatale with just a little balancing of your chakras. The second or sacral chakra governs our sexuality and passion. Let’s start with your passion for life in general – everyone is attracted to someone who flirts with life and glows with love for themselves as well as others. Do you judge the way you look unkindly? Look in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are, just the way you are. And move through life letting that beauty emanate from you. The second chakra is about movement and flow. Go for a swim or dance around the house. Stand with your feet planted firmly on the ground as you listen to music you love and let Mother Earth’s energy fill you. Breathe it up from the center of the Earth. Embrace the feminine, celebrate it.

When your second chakra is balanced, breathe in the energy of the bright yellow sun to fill your personal power center, the third or solar plexus chakra. Radiate self-confidence out into the world. Don’t be jealous of others’ charms, compliment them. Once you feel filled with love and joy, believe me, your partner will want to tap into that. The more love you give out, the more you will receive.

For a more in-depth chakra balancing, listen to this free Chakra Meditation from The Chakra Diaries.
Namaste!
Becca Chopra

Your Partner – Macho Mike or Weak Willie?


Dear Becca,

My new boyfriend Karl was very sweet and attentive on our first few dates, making me think that FINALLY I had met the one. But soon his high voice and tentative manner began to bug me. He could get his feelings hurt so easily – like when I told him to get over it when he complained that his rent controlled apartment was going coop. Other times he would practically beg me to come to bed, knowing that I had some important briefs I had to finish (not his) before the morning.

My last boyfriend was so macho and strong-willed, Karl just pales in comparison.

Becca, I don’t have to have a Val Kilmer, take-charge alpha male with a Barry White voice, of course, that would be nice, but….now I am the unsure one. Please help.
Signed, Julie in Joliet

Dear Julie,
Thanks for writing. My take on your situation is that Karl is just too feminine to fit your “macho man” needs. Maybe he wants you to wear the spurs rather than the other way around. My guess is that the men in your life, including your father, have had a preponderance of male energy and your man-puzzle is missing a few pieces with Karl. However, Karl’s foibles aside, you may need to balance your male and female energies to attract a man who will rock your world. Here are a few ways to do it:

Chant “OM” for several minutes to stimulate more male energy.

Focus on the color Blue which symbolizes the cool, logical male- visualize it, breathe it in, surround yourself with it, bathe in it, wear it out.

Sweep your hands outward from your sides toward the sky. Look up and invite the energy from above to flow into you.

Practice these energy balancing methods every day for a month and please let me know how you are doing. As always, I invite reader comment.

Namaste! Becca

Are your Chakras in Balance?


After reading my novel, The Chakra Diaries, many wonder which of their chakras may be out of balance. There’s a very good questionnaire at http://www.EclecticEnergies.com, that can give you an indication of which chakra/s could use strengthening.

You can also have someone test you with a pendulum – any object hung on a string or chain that is able to swing freely. It works by responding to micro-muscular movements of the fingers, which are themselves responding to a focused question that you ask about something… you can choose what meaning to give to the following kinds of responses, e.g., clockwise circle – open chakra; counter-clockwise circle – closed chakra. I have also experienced a perfectly still pendulum when a chakra is closed. There’s more info on how I use the pendulum in the prologue to The Chakra Diaries.

If you’re unsure which chakra to focus on, do a Chakra Meditation to balance all your chakras, starting at the root chakra, the base for all our security and balance in life. Try my guided visualization from The Chakra Diaries: Chakra Meditation.

You can also use colored crystals, rocks or gems in a simple Spectrum Chakra Balance, adapted from Crystal Healing by Simon and Sue Lilly, to reinforce your chakra energies and help them to return to normal functioning:

Choose a grounding stone (black, brown or dark red) to place between your feet. Then choose a stone or crystal corresponding to the different colors of the chakras, placing the red one between your knees, the orange right above your pelvic bone, the yellow right above your navel, the green over your heart center, the blue on your throat, indigo or dark blue on your forehead and a violet or clear stone on the floor just above the top of your head. Lie down with these stones in place for a period of about 5 minutes or until you feel complete, then remove the stones starting with the one above your head.

Relax for a few more minutes, still lying down, then enjoy a sense a well-being and balance, ready to face the stresses of the day ahead.

Namaste!
Becca

Finding Mr. Right


Becca, now that Valentine’s Day has come and gone and the aroma of the roses is a little tired and stale, how do I know that my current man is Mr. Right? He is such a mixed bag of my Wants in a man. He has a good job, not a great one, but says he wants to retire early and see the world. Brought up in foster homes, he is uncertain about wanting to have children although he loves to play with my sister’s baby. Although he exercises a lot, he eats for an army and his hair is still mostly thick, but thinning on his crown.

Should I commit to him heart and soul and hope that he won’t change, or date the handsome, tall, volleyball-playing guy in the office who makes my heart go pitter-patter when he throws me air kisses, comments on how sexy I look and invites me to a rooftop party? My office girlfriends say this luscious Lothario is more my type than Mr. Nice Guy but I wonder if they aren’t just taken in by his wry smile and broad chest that begs to be covered in hot kisses. I see him as a charming flirt who may have a hard time settling on where to eat for dinner, much less who will be dessert. Is a good man hard to find, like a parking place?

Dear Decision Time,

I have heard the saying, men are like parking places, they are either already taken or too far away. But, I believe the right one is out there for you. Real life is not like Sex in the City, the pieces of our lives falling into place and fitting together wonderfully despite our busload of blunders. As we all know, looks fade, yet attitudes, behaviors and beliefs don’t, so that our pick of a mate should be someone who we can grow old with and genuinely enjoy spending time together with.

So, when the final blush has faded and the rose petals dropped away, your mate-to-be may not be either Lothario or Mr. Nice Guy, they may only be love in training. Ask yourself whether you can accept the proverbial “good” with the “bad,” whether you feel deep down that you and your pick of the litter will treat each other with respect and honesty, allowing each other the room to grow. However DT, perhaps the greatest lesson to remember is that a loving relationship is NOT about what our partner is giving. We cannot receive what we have not already given, so be grateful, appreciative and loving about what your partner, or potential partner, brings to the table. Criticism, argument, blame, nagging and fault have no business being in the same county as a loving relationship as they will soon infect it and crush it to the ground. Bathe yourself in happiness and positive thoughts and happy people will flock to you, even Mr. Right.

Namaste! Becca

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