My new boyfriend Karl was very sweet and attentive on our first few dates, making me think that FINALLY I had met the one. But soon his high voice and tentative manner began to bug me. He could get his feelings hurt so easily – like when I told him to get over it when he complained that his rent controlled apartment was going coop. Other times he would practically beg me to come to bed, knowing that I had some important briefs I had to finish (not his) before the morning.
My last boyfriend was so macho and strong-willed, Karl just pales in comparison.
Becca, I don’t have to have a Val Kilmer, take-charge alpha male with a Barry White voice, of course, that would be nice, but….now I am the unsure one. Please help.
Signed, Julie in Joliet
Thanks for writing. My take on your situation is that Karl is just too feminine to fit your “macho man” needs. Maybe he wants you to wear the spurs rather than the other way around. My guess is that the men in your life, including your father, have had a preponderance of male energy and your man-puzzle is missing a few pieces with Karl. However, Karl’s foibles aside, you may need to balance your male and female energies to attract a man who will rock your world. Here are a few ways to do it:
Chant “OM” for several minutes to stimulate more male energy.
Focus on the color Blue which symbolizes the cool, logical male- visualize it, breathe it in, surround yourself with it, bathe in it, wear it out.
Sweep your hands outward from your sides toward the sky. Look up and invite the energy from above to flow into you.
Practice these energy balancing methods every day for a month and please let me know how you are doing. As always, I invite reader comment.