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Love, Matchmaking and Inspiration


Hearts On The Line is both a hysterical and inspiring memoir from a truly talented writer. Marla Martenson opens her heart to share her dreams, aspirations and affirmations about getting out of the zany world of matchmaking old rich guys with young gold diggers in Beverly Hills. While she’s driven away by a sadistic boss and crazy clients, she seems forced to stay in by hopes of making enough money to buy a house with her loving Latin stud of a husband (who pushes her to hold on to the job even while it pushes her over the edge).

She finds herself in a dilemma that’s all too familiar – how do we get to that promised land of “Do what you love and the money will follow?”

Luckily, Marla knows how to ground herself, not only with Happy Hour drinks, but with meditations from Gurudev Amrit Desai, and she shares these with her readers, along with positive thoughts and actions that balance out her frustrations. Just when she (and we, the readers) have just about lost hope, we thankfully see her reach for that golden ring that has so eluded her.

Racy and ribald, this memoir is every bit as entertaining as the best chick lit out there. But it also carries an important life message that “…dreams are for real.” Hearts On The Line is available at Amazon.com in both paperback and Kindle versions.

As a professional matchmaker working in Los Angeles since 2001, Marla Martenson has helped countless couples connect with their soul mates and go on to marriage. She is also a certified life/dating coach, author and motivational speaker. I asked her a few questions about her new memoir:

BECCA: Is there an underlying message in your book?

Yes, the underlying message of my book is that when we stay true to ourselves, and listen to our still small voice, it will lead us in the right direction in our life’s purpose.

BECCA: What would you like readers to take away from your writings?

It makes me happy when someone writes to me and tells me that they couldn’t put my book down, or that it made them laugh. I love to entertain and inspire at the same time.

BECCA: What is the best thing anyone has said about your book?

Actually Becca, your review made me smile! This line in particular, “Racy and ribald, this memoir is every bit as entertaining as the best chick lit out there. But it also carries an important life message that “…dreams are for real.” I love Chick Lit, and tried to give it the chick lit feel with a deeper message.

BECCA: Any advice for others who feel they want to write and share their own story?

It seems that almost everyone that I meet is either writing a book or wants to write one. Each of us have a story to tell and it is a wonderful feeling to actually accomplish writing a book. I say, go for it. Since the publishing industry has changed and authors can self publish so easily and share their story, there is no reason why everyone can’t go for their dream of writing and publishing a book.

For more info on her work and blog, see:  www.marlamartenson.com

Namaste!
Becca Chopra

P.S. Download my memoir Chakra Secrets, FREE ON KINDLE TODAY at http://amzn.to/RgxgS3.

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Avoid the #1 Relationship Killer


Relationship experts and Huna philosophers all think blame and criticism is the #1 reason why relationships fail. Most couples split up, family members stop talking or business partnerships fail because one or both of the parties gets tired of being blamed or criticized.

What is the best and quickest way to stop it?

When you’re blaming someone, what you’re really doing is pointing the finger at them and saying “Hah! It’s your fault. You’re wrong.” Then, that person typically comes back and says, “No, it’s your fault…” and this can go on in an endless loop.

When you catch yourself starting to blame or you’re having critical thoughts about your partner or colleague, make a pleasant “Hmmm….” sound. And what this does is it shifts you out of your “critical” brain into your “wonder” brain.

So, you can say to yourself, “Hmmm… I wonder what I could learn from this.” Or “Hmmm… I wonder how I’m contributing to this situation.”

When you do this, an immediate change takes place in your connection with the person you were previously blaming or criticizing.

Try this the next time you have a critical thought, and watch real miracles open up in your relationships! And of course, work on keeping your heart chakra open to love and compassion – listen to my free Chakra Meditation at http://www.thechakras.org.
Namaste! Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries

HOW TO KEEP PASSION ALIVE


Dear Becca,
Like Deborah in your book, The Chakra Diaries, I feel dried up, my partner looks at every woman but me, what can I do?
In a Funk

Dear Friend,
You can go from funky to femme fatale with just a little balancing of your chakras. The second or sacral chakra governs our sexuality and passion. Let’s start with your passion for life in general – everyone is attracted to someone who flirts with life and glows with love for themselves as well as others. Do you judge the way you look unkindly? Look in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are, just the way you are. And move through life letting that beauty emanate from you. The second chakra is about movement and flow. Go for a swim or dance around the house. Stand with your feet planted firmly on the ground as you listen to music you love and let Mother Earth’s energy fill you. Breathe it up from the center of the Earth. Embrace the feminine, celebrate it.

When your second chakra is balanced, breathe in the energy of the bright yellow sun to fill your personal power center, the third or solar plexus chakra. Radiate self-confidence out into the world. Don’t be jealous of others’ charms, compliment them. Once you feel filled with love and joy, believe me, your partner will want to tap into that. The more love you give out, the more you will receive.

For a more in-depth chakra balancing, listen to this free Chakra Meditation from The Chakra Diaries.
Namaste!
Becca Chopra

Your Partner – Macho Mike or Weak Willie?


Dear Becca,

My new boyfriend Karl was very sweet and attentive on our first few dates, making me think that FINALLY I had met the one. But soon his high voice and tentative manner began to bug me. He could get his feelings hurt so easily – like when I told him to get over it when he complained that his rent controlled apartment was going coop. Other times he would practically beg me to come to bed, knowing that I had some important briefs I had to finish (not his) before the morning.

My last boyfriend was so macho and strong-willed, Karl just pales in comparison.

Becca, I don’t have to have a Val Kilmer, take-charge alpha male with a Barry White voice, of course, that would be nice, but….now I am the unsure one. Please help.
Signed, Julie in Joliet

Dear Julie,
Thanks for writing. My take on your situation is that Karl is just too feminine to fit your “macho man” needs. Maybe he wants you to wear the spurs rather than the other way around. My guess is that the men in your life, including your father, have had a preponderance of male energy and your man-puzzle is missing a few pieces with Karl. However, Karl’s foibles aside, you may need to balance your male and female energies to attract a man who will rock your world. Here are a few ways to do it:

Chant “OM” for several minutes to stimulate more male energy.

Focus on the color Blue which symbolizes the cool, logical male- visualize it, breathe it in, surround yourself with it, bathe in it, wear it out.

Sweep your hands outward from your sides toward the sky. Look up and invite the energy from above to flow into you.

Practice these energy balancing methods every day for a month and please let me know how you are doing. As always, I invite reader comment.

Namaste! Becca

Finding Mr. Right


Becca, now that Valentine’s Day has come and gone and the aroma of the roses is a little tired and stale, how do I know that my current man is Mr. Right? He is such a mixed bag of my Wants in a man. He has a good job, not a great one, but says he wants to retire early and see the world. Brought up in foster homes, he is uncertain about wanting to have children although he loves to play with my sister’s baby. Although he exercises a lot, he eats for an army and his hair is still mostly thick, but thinning on his crown.

Should I commit to him heart and soul and hope that he won’t change, or date the handsome, tall, volleyball-playing guy in the office who makes my heart go pitter-patter when he throws me air kisses, comments on how sexy I look and invites me to a rooftop party? My office girlfriends say this luscious Lothario is more my type than Mr. Nice Guy but I wonder if they aren’t just taken in by his wry smile and broad chest that begs to be covered in hot kisses. I see him as a charming flirt who may have a hard time settling on where to eat for dinner, much less who will be dessert. Is a good man hard to find, like a parking place?

Dear Decision Time,

I have heard the saying, men are like parking places, they are either already taken or too far away. But, I believe the right one is out there for you. Real life is not like Sex in the City, the pieces of our lives falling into place and fitting together wonderfully despite our busload of blunders. As we all know, looks fade, yet attitudes, behaviors and beliefs don’t, so that our pick of a mate should be someone who we can grow old with and genuinely enjoy spending time together with.

So, when the final blush has faded and the rose petals dropped away, your mate-to-be may not be either Lothario or Mr. Nice Guy, they may only be love in training. Ask yourself whether you can accept the proverbial “good” with the “bad,” whether you feel deep down that you and your pick of the litter will treat each other with respect and honesty, allowing each other the room to grow. However DT, perhaps the greatest lesson to remember is that a loving relationship is NOT about what our partner is giving. We cannot receive what we have not already given, so be grateful, appreciative and loving about what your partner, or potential partner, brings to the table. Criticism, argument, blame, nagging and fault have no business being in the same county as a loving relationship as they will soon infect it and crush it to the ground. Bathe yourself in happiness and positive thoughts and happy people will flock to you, even Mr. Right.

Namaste! Becca

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Becca, how can I incorporate my Christian beliefs into my chakra balancing practice?


Thanks for your question.

Deepak Chopra offers sage advice on transforming your life, from a Christian perspective, in his novel “Jesus.” While many Christians may not agree with his fictional account of Jesus’ lost years before his ministry began, they can reap new insights from the Readers Guide – Jesus and the Path to Enlightenment. He writes that Jesus was the product of transformation and that he wanted others to be transformed also, giving up unloving, violent, selfish and narrow-minded attitudes and offering only love and peace to the world. He describes how all Jesus’ teaching was in service of one objective: to find the way back home, to oneness with God. Not so different from moving from the material plane, starting with the root chakra, and working our way up to oneness by opening the crown chakra. While Christianity offers prayer as a way to “transcend,” Eastern spiritual traditions offer meditation, such as used to balance our chakras. Both quiet the mind and expand it beyond everyday boundaries.

He offers a wonderful meditation on the heart chakra: Sit quietly and let your attention go to the center of your chest, focusing on your heart. Softly bring your attention back when emotions, sensations, feelings or images arise. He says hidden memories will resurface; repressed emotions will flow. Soon the experience will shift as you contact the heart as a center of tenderness and love. As you move toward silence, the door will open to an invisible presence. The more you sit with it, the more it begins to express attributes of God, such as love and tenderness, power and strength.

Deepak Chopra’s explanation is that Jesus was teaching how to find the source of all God’s qualities inside yourself and ultimately to embody them. Working on the chakras will help you to embody these qualities… which to me, makes it in line with Christ consciousness.
Namaste! Becca
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