MANIFESTING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP, A GREAT LIFE
With all this talk of manifesting your goals, how do you actually accomplish
conscious manifestation? There are many ways – here is advice gleaned from Gay Hendricks.
Manifestation begins to happen after you’ve become skilled at focusing positively
on your goals (stage one) and loving yourself as you proceed toward them (stage two.)
The third stage is to cultivate an ongoing experience of wonder.
As you go through your life, get in the habit of asking lots of
wonder-questions. A wonder-question is one you don’t know the answer to.
A wonder-question is something you’re genuinely curious about.
When a tough situation emerges, go toward wonder rather than
toward a fixed position. If you’ve been struggling with your weight all your
life, shift for a moment to wonder instead of struggle. Ask a wonder question:
“Hmmm, I wonder what my weight-struggle is really about?”
(Compare that to a non-wonder question: “Does Jenny Craig or Weight-
Watchers have the best program?”)
Wondering is more fun and it makes things work faster. If we’d
gotten stuck in feeling victimized by our buyer who backed out, we wouldn’t
have had much fun. We might not have gotten the house back on the
market and sold it quite so quickly, either.
You can turn any life-situation into a wonder-question. If you’re
having a relationship struggle, let go of blaming your partner or yourself.
Instead, wonder “Why would I be creating a relationship struggle right
If you’re having a money-struggle, turn it into a wonder-question:
“Hmmm, what am I needing to learn from this money-struggle?”
Under stress, we humans tend to clutch our bellies in fear and cling to
fixed positions. We look for somebody to blame. We think we know whose
fault it is and what they ought to do to fix the problem.
Let’s try something new: Under stress, go to wonder rather than fear.
Let go of positions and float free in wonder.
Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries